Coasting Through Hosting


Not only is Hostess With The Mostess a blog we love to browse for party ideas, but it’s also our mantra here at SASS. Throwing a shower is a balancing act of epic proportions, and a well-intentioned but frazzled hostess can be the one to turn the whole thing into a flop. Here are some quick tips that you should do before and during every event you host.

Before the Party:

  1. Week of Chores: Need to clean the guest bathroom? Go to the grocery store? Iron the tablecloth? Do yourself a favor and get tasks done the week before.

  1. Create a Day-Of Schedule: Sounds intense, we know! But we can’t stress enough how a little pre-planning goes a long way. Start from the time your party begins and work backwards. Decide when you want things to come out of the oven and how long they take to bake. Then everything else can fill in the holes. It should be your goal to have anything and everything done that can be done early.

  1. Get Dressed! Unless this is a pajama party, prioritize your “getting ready” time. So often this is the last thing on our list. You may have cooked delicious food and decorated a to-die-for table, but all anyone will notice is that you seemingly forgot to straighten your hair that day.

  1. Set the tone: Have the music on and the drinks ready 10 minutes before your party starts. The food can be making its way to the table once guests arrive, but the drinks (and the atmosphere) should be flowing when they walk in the door.

  1. Get your CBF in check: Chronic Bitchface can happen to the best of us, especially when we're trying to throw a better shower than the bride's coworkers (who, let's face it, aren't even that good of friends with her). Put on your best Miss America impression, relax and enjoy yourself. You've prepped ahead of time so now read what to do at the party below!

During the Party:

  1. Greet: As long as your house isn't packed, greet the guests yourself (and shouting "it's open!" doesn't count). Make sure everyone is formerly greeted and that you have taken their coats, purses and gifts. Once the party is full you can allow others to greet to save you from hurdling over the couches.

  1. Make Introductions: As the hostess you are the common ingredient in everyone’s party punch. You may be meeting guests for the first time too, but since the invitations had your name on them it is assumed you know everyone attending. A simple, “You must be Aunt Diane from Fort Worth! This is Jessica’s college roommate Stephanie,” will go a long way to break the ice.

  1. Attend: A hostess who is MIA because she’s slaving away in the kitchen is such a bummer! Follow the “Before the Party” tips to ensure that you are prepared and ready to spend time with your guests upon their arrival.

  1. Be the MC: Remember follow the leader when we were kids? Well showers are a little like that too. While everyone may be watching the Guest of Honor, your job is to lead her in the right direction. Take it upon yourself to thank everyone for coming and direct them towards the table to eat, or to have a seat during gift opening. Whatever festivities you have planned, make sure everyone is in the loop.

  1. Be Gracious: Sounds old fashioned and Southern, right? But being gracious is most important. A gracious hostess doesn’t lose her cool when the co-hostess who signed up for drinks shows up with a case of warm Miller Lite. She also doesn’t serve pie to the bride on the Atkins diet. Know your crowd, and make it work. Parties will never be perfect, but it’s astonishing what you can get away with if you’ve got a smile on your face. ;)

What's your best advice for being a great hostess?

Happy Planning,
Sweet & Sour Showers